It’s all about crab people.
What are they? What do they do? How in the world do you get away?
What are crab people?
There are many different kinds of crab people and they go by many different names.
Some people refer to them as battery or energy drainers, they are closely related to what some refer to as a Doubting Thomas, Negative Nancy, leech, hungry ghost, or simply just annoying.
Regardless of the name though, one thing is for sure, you’ve encountered them at some point in your life.
Even more important than knowing what to call them is knowing what they do, why they do it, and how you escape these dangerous crab people.
What do crab people do?
The short of it is that crab people find small ways to pull you down, hold you back, and stop you every time you try to make a step up in life, reach towards something positive and start living a happier, more fulfilling life.
There are numerous methods that crab people use to do this.
Often times, they make use of jokes and quick, one line quips.
Crab people don’t like bikes or healthy food
To illustrate, recently I was reading through a forum where an individual — I’ll call him Sonny — was describing his interactions with crab people while attempting to live a healthier life.
Sonny shared how the crab people teased him when he started riding a bike to work, and they insinuated that he would only do such a thing if he had no choice.
Among other things, they joked that he had gotten a DUI, that a judge ordered him to ride the bike, and that he wasn’t allowed to drive.
At the same time, Sonny also began making steps towards eating healthier by saying “no” to sugary snacks and other non-nutritious junk food.
The crab people went after him there too.
They called him names like rabbit, kept prodding him and pressuring him saying that one donut and one soda wouldn’t be that bad, and that his eating only healthy food meant he thought he was better than everybody.
Essentially, every step he made to do something better, the crab people did something to try and counteract it.
Even friends can be crab people
A story from my own life, one relating to my training at a higher level athletically, shows that even friends can be crab people sometimes.
Overly simplifying the details to keep this short and sort of to the point, due to my increased training intensity, I found that I could benefit from supplementing my diet with additional protein, fish oil, vitamins, BCAAs and such.
Supplementation is a fairly tricky and controversial subject, and one I’ll tackle at a more appropriate time in the future.
Also, please rest assured, the supplements I take are all very legal, very healthy, not banned anywhere, and most definitely not steroids.)
Every time my friend saw me taking these, he would make a quip about them being steroids, and how I was taking steroids.
As I said, I’m oversimplifying this, and I know that my friend didn’t mean any harm. At the same time, these small comments still made me feel a little uncomfortable.
Failure by a thousand jokes
The more important point is that these types of small comments and jokes can be very damaging to people trying to do good. Especially, when the subject of the jokes may not be in a state to respond to them well.
Over time each little joke can kind of eat at you inside and add up to a loss of drive, energy, determination and commitment.
They sew seeds of doubt, and can make a person feel like there is something wrong with them for trying to do the good things they are working hard at.
Additionally, these comments can also make the person feel as if failure is a certainty. Why else would crab people be teasing them, making jokes, and pressuring them if the crab people weren’t so sure that failure is imminent.
So, really, what’s up with crab people? Why do they do what they do?
The reasons crab people exist, and the reasons why crab people do what they do, and say what they say, are as numerous as the crab people themselves.
There are a few common reasons worth knowing though.
Crab people often don’t believe good things can happen
Some of the negativity from crab people stems from their belief that good, positive things just can’t really happen.
For a myriad of reasons, many of them are at a point where they don’t believe it is possible for good changes to take place.
As a result, it is almost easier for them to ensure no one else climbs out of the bucket they’re stuck in than it is to deal with someone else breaking their worldview by successfully making positive changes.
Occasionally, this relates to their own failed attempts to make positive changes in the past.
When you or someone else takes steps towards a positive direction, it can remind them of negative feelings and thoughts resulting from not accomplishing what they wanted to accomplish before.
Sometimes crab people just don’t understand
Another reason crab people do what they do can come from a simple lack of understanding and awareness.
They think the jokes they make about not eating one donut, one candy bar, one piece of cake, or drinking one soda are harmless and insignificant.
This is the result of not understanding that every “one small thing” adds up over time. One piece of cake, one soda, and one candy bar are all steps towards a fat and unhealthy state.
Sure, one candy bar probably won’t make a difference, however, the crab people often forget that one candy bar each day, one soda on top of that, and one piece of cake each week combine to make more than just “one small thing”.
They also forget that each small step can mean more than just that one snack.
By giving in once, it is easier to give in again, and again. Then at some point, the drive and determination to take the healthy, successful path has eroded.
Crab people, the truth and the excuse
Another big reason crab people do what they do has to do with admitting the truth and making excuses.
If a crab person admits that the steps you are taking towards greater health, greater happiness, and greater success are correct, then they lose an excuse for not taking those same steps.
By not making jokes, small comments, or doing other minor things that can make you fail, they lose an easy out for themselves.
When everyone around them is failing to make positive changes, it makes it easy for them to say and believe that nobody can make those changes, and that it isn’t worth even trying.
However, if they fail to make you fail, then suddenly that easy excuse—their reason to not even try—is no longer valid.
As soon as you succeed in making positive steps towards being healthier, happier, and more fulfilled, the crab people get put in a tough position.
They either have to say to themselves that it is time for them to step up and make positive changes, or they have to admit that what’s stopping them from taking good steps is a result of their own laziness, fear, or any other myriad of reasons.
The excuse that no one is able to succeed and that it’s not worth trying is no longer valid. Now the crab people have to face the other internal reasons for not working towards success, and those reasons are usually pretty tough to face.
The intentions of crab people
While they can be very damaging, most of the time, crab people aren’t intending to be as harmful as they turn out to be.
The small jokes and peer pressure they give are coming from a fairly subconscious level, and often they think what they’re saying is harmless.
Really, crab people are people too, so holding their actions against them is not very beneficial.
What can you do about crab people?
The most effective way to deal with crab people is to simply let their comments roll off your shoulders and never let their jokes go past your ears.
In short, ignore their comments and realize they are irrelevant to your goals and to what you are doing.
What they are saying often comes from a place of pain, ignorance, fear or something else internal to them, so it really doesn’t mean anything in relation to what you are trying to do.
So, forgive the crab people and move on.
Additionally, keep in mind that at some point, once you’ve achieved made more progress, some of those crab people will come to you for help.
Your actions will be inspirational to them. You can prove their theory wrong and show them that good change is possible. You can turn doubters into believers.
By doing that, you give them hope, and they’ll go from being crab people to being people aiming for self-betterment and advocating what you are doing.
Can’t ignore crab people? Try this.
Sometimes it can be tough to ignore the crab people, and in that situation, there is another good alternative.
Take what the actions of the crab people and use it as fuel to drive you further.
Use their jokes and comments to fuel your fire, use them as inspiration to make more progress, and as a great indicator that what you are doing is the right thing.
The crab people make those comments because you are disrupting their image of a negative world where nothing good can come from trying to do the right thing.
Your actions show them that it is possible to achieve things through dedicated effort.
They make comments because what you are doing stands out as abnormal, and they don’t know how to react to that.
Unfortunately, now-a-days, being healthy, being happy, feeling fulfilled, and living a great life are abnormal.
So, when you make steps towards those things, your actions stand out.
As you achieve more, what do starts to seem abnormal to them, and most people — especially crab people — don’t know how to respond to abnormal activity.
So, when you get those comments and jokes, know that what the crab people are really saying is that you are doing the right thing, keep it up.
Then, as more people take the steps you take, and more people do the things you do to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life, at some point, the scales will tip. At that point, being happy, healthy, and fulfilled will be the new normal.
There’s one very dangerous crab person, so be aware
One of the most dangerous crab people is the one that is actually inside of you.
We all have little voices, little negative comments and jokes that we say to ourselves that hold us back, draw down our positive energy, and lead us to give up.
Watch out for those things inside your own head.
Use mindfulness and meditation to recognize when you talk down to yourself.
Don’t let the crab person inside of you pull you down.
Crab people are all around you, there’s even one inside you. For many reasons they will do things to drag you down and stop you from climbing to a better life.
Understand that the reasons they act this way has to do with themselves more than you, and that their comments indicate you are making the right steps.
The best approach to deal with crab people is to either ignore them or use their comments to fuel your drive to do more and go further.
As you do this, and more people do this, the number and power of crab people will diminish, and great things will come.
In the meantime, be mindful of crab people, and be extra careful about the one that lives inside you.
Fellow Journeyer @ BigSkyRise
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