When it comes down to it, our happiness, fulfillment, ease, and contentment comes from within us, and not from external sources.
Looking to external sources for our satisfaction with life means that those external things hold control over us, our happiness, and our sense of fulfillment.
That is in part what leads us to often feel inadequate and powerless in our every day lives. As a result the world feels overwhelming and we try to close our self off from things and to throw up walls of some form.
In addition to that, no matter how many fancy gadgets, cool toys, “perfect” situations, etc. we manage to acquire or encounter along the way, our contentment and happiness from those things is fleeting and tinged with a fear of their loss.
When we are stuck in a bad situation we are unhappy because it’s less than ideal. When we are in a good situation we aren’t fully happy since we carry the knowledge and fear that at some point that good situation is likely to change.
Reorienting ourselves to find the happiness, fulfillment, and contentment originating from within changes that dynamic.
By doing this, we gain control over our own happiness and our interactions with life.
Through simply understanding this we take an important first step on our happier, more fulfilling life path.
We take control and can begin training ourselves to approach life in a new and empowering way.
Our happiness is no longer a reflection of objects, events, and circumstances beyond our control, instead our happiness builds from within and positively impacts the external circumstances around us.
To help empower you on your journey, for today’s post, I’m sharing three great articles with mindfulness at their heart.
In addition to yielding its own rewards, mindfulness is also a tool which helps us uncover, explore, and tap into our inner happiness and other powers and abilities.
So, give the linked articles below a read and see what you can take from them to use as tools for continuing and enhancing your journey.
Get to know concentration, mindfulness, and compassion
This really great article from Sharon Salzberg titled Three simple ways to pay attention shares some very important points on concentration, mindfulness, and compassion among other things.
Seeing and understanding these three things with greater clarity allows us to build on them in a broader way.
Additionally, it helps us begin to see that the happiness, contentment, compassion, and fulfillment we seek originates from within us and we aren’t starting from zero; we’re simply strengthening what already exists.
As Salzburg puts it, “Practicing meditation doesn’t involve a whole new set of skills. It works so well, because it enhances life skills we already have.”
In a previous post, I touched on unskillful labelling and indicated it’s generally a harmful action to take on our journey.
The flip side of that is the idea of skillful labelling, which when used appropriately, can be a helpful tool that provides us an advantage on our journey.
This skillful approach to labelling is something that can be found in a variety of mindful meditation techniques.
One such example of this is touched on in this Mindful.org article, Four common types of self-talk.
Give it a read to get some excellent insight into some of our forms of self-talk, as well as how we can interact more consciously with that self-talk.
Watch out for the self-analysis trap
Related to the idea of interacting with our self-talk is the concept of understanding our thoughts and emotions.
As with all things, this is something to be approached in a balanced way — and can be easily misapplied, especially by those of us who tend to over think things.
Taken too far, and in particular when there is an element of attachment placed on that understanding, it is easy to fall into a self-analysis trap.
This personal story of falling into the self-analysis trap shares useful insights and lessons that we can easily apply in our own lives.
Our happiness, fulfillment, ease, and contentment comes from within us, and not from external sources.
Understanding this is an important first step on our happier, more fulfilling life journey.
To build on this understanding, cultivating greater mindfulness is incredibly empowering, and to help with that cultivation, here are your links for this week:
- Three simple ways to pay attention
- Four common types of self-talk
- This personal story of falling into the self-analysis trap
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