The perfect moment truth 1:
There is no perfect moment and things certainly aren’t perfect right now.
Plus, you’re probably not really ready.
The perfect moment truth 2:
Every moment is perfect and this moment is definitely perfect.
Plus, you are more than ready.
Truth 1 + Truth 2 = 1 Truth
How’s that for appearing to be contradictory?
Yet, both these statements hold the truth as well as a key realization — a realization which yields great power.
There is no perfect moment, and in part because of that, each moment really is perfect.
Are you ready? Now is your perfect moment
Whether you are looking to make changes in your life through steps like those outlined in How to find your way when you’re lost without a map and a plan and How to rewrite your story or if you are cultivating a greater level of mindful contentment with life as it is—or are doing both—this realization is empowering.
Making changes + this truth
For many of us, we may wish to make changes in our lives so that we can better ourselves, our circumstances, and the world in which we live.
Often though, it can be tough to actually begin undertaking the steps towards the changes we want to make.
We tend to feel the need to wait for some perfect moment to start — often in part from the mistaken assumption that waiting will help increase the odds of success.
We hold off… and off… and off… looking for that perfect moment to begin… and most often it never seems to come.
So, when you understand that there is no perfect moment in conventional terms, it becomes clear that the perfect moment to start is right now.
Holding off usually doesn’t improve the odds of success, and generally only leads to either never starting or being days, weeks, months, or years behind where you’d be if you simply had started.
If you wait start, during that time, it’s easy to be pre-occupied with the task you have yet to begin, and quite frequently worry, an inability to focus, and anxiety starts to creep in.
However, even if you start, fail, and have to start again, you’ve gained experience and insight to help you when you make that next start and you are better off than if you’d not made that first attempt.
When you know there is no perfect moment to start, it makes it easier to simply start where you are, and do what you can with what you have.
Once you’ve made progress and reflect back, it becomes clear that the perfect moment to start was that imperfect moment you took advantage of.
Motivation to make your life better
If there are aspects of life where you are unsatisfied, where you know you need to make changes, or where you know you need to learn how to truly accept circumstances as they are, do it now, do it today, and don’t wait for a ‘perfect moment’.
Start making steps, no matter how big or small.
If you wait for later to start, it likely will never happen, or at the very least you delay your own success.
A healthy example
For example, when you wait for the perfect moment to get healthier, you’ll always be too tired, too drained, or too worn out to start.
You’ll always want to just veg out in front of the TV, scroll through the endless noise of social media, eat that one more bit of junk food, or play the Candy Crush-Farmville-Hay Day—Pokemon Go—game—of—the—moment.
Simply, because the only way to have the energy and conditions you’re waiting for is to have already stopped doing the things which are harming you.
The energy, motivation, and set of circumstances you are waiting for only come after you’ve already began.
(I’ll get into some of the reasons for this down the road, since there are many factors at play. As a teaser example, your endocrine system tends to work in a type of feedback loop; either negative or positive. So, if you are too fat your hormones will be off, which will lead to gaining more weight, sleeping poorly, feeling lethargic, etc, throwing things off even more. If you have a good body composition, exercising properly, and are taking care of yourself, your hormones will be in better balance, leading to easier fat loss, better sleep, less sickness, better muscle and bone development, etc and making it easier to be healthier. In both the negative and positive cases your actions can change the feedback loop. So, it’s wise to start making a committed effort to change the negative feedback loop to positive, and to be mindfully aware so that you maintain a positive feedback loop.)
In essence, waiting for the perfect moment to start making the changes you seek, is a bit like saying “I’ll start my fat loss program as soon as I’m in great shape and have the energy of an elite athlete.”
The inconvenient truth
The results won’t come before taking the actions you need to achieve them.
This can be tough since the times when you really need to make changes are often the same ones when you feel less than stellar.
Some of the good news hidden in that though is:
- You are much stronger, tougher, and more powerful than you realize.
- Somewhere inside you, the things you need to get going are already there.
- Every change you make, no matter how small, works to shift the direction and momentum of your life for the better.
- As you make changes, it gets easier to make even greater progress. (In the same way life can sometimes feel like it is in an out of control downward spiral, you can build momentum and a cycle of positivity in your life.)
To make it clear, this post is here to motivate you, to help you see that now is the time to start.
I have no intention to shame you or make you feel guilty.
I understand all too well how easy it is to keep waiting for that perfect starting point. That’s also why I know how important it is to understand that now is the moment for a fresh new beginning and to start making any changes that you want to make.
There is no need for carrying guilt or feeling shame for not having started already or for having failed in the past. In this type of situation, guilt and shame are of little help and use, so focus on the positive progress that can be had.
Yes, it can be hard to start.
There’s fear of failing, there’s an uncertainty about knowing the right steps, there can be times where the extra effort exerted almost makes you feel like you are going backwards, the end goal can seem forever away, and often a reason that change is desired is because you are feeling at less than your prime.
On top of that, when you are starting something new, you often feel like a beginner, and it can be hard to be a beginner.
You may feel awkward, incapable, inadequate, lost, confused, unintelligent, inexperienced, or simply intimidated.
That’s why being mindful and using tools such as the one outlined in Change your life with one simple thought are important.
Take the place you are at, and reorient yourself to see things differently.
Look at the great aspects of starting something new and being a beginner.
There is so much to discover, bigger changes are more likely at early stages and changes can start to come fast, the learning you do as a beginner ripples out into every other aspect of life, you’ll encounter new and unforeseen opportunities, and you get to witness your incredible ability to grow and change no matter what age you are.
You have a chance to build new confidence, you’ll start to know more about yourself, you have great things waiting for you on your path, with each step you are making a movement towards something better.
Plus, when you are beginning something new you can feel young again.
Consider how most everything children undertake is fresh and new; they are beginners at most everything. While that can have frustrating elements, it’s also incredibly exciting. As adults, our encounters with that level of newness are much less frequent, so when the chance comes to start something new, it’s worthwhile to consider that youthful freshness.
Along with making changes, recognizing the truth of the two truths above helps in finding a greater happiness with what is.
Cultivating mindful contentment + this truth
Understanding that there is no ‘perfect’, which in itself holds a kind of perfection, helps build a calm contentment with life as it is.
Grasping this realization makes it clearer that happiness isn’t found in the acquisition of more, in the alignment of elements into a perfect scenario, nor in a specific set of circumstances, it comes from an internal recognition and realization of what is already at the core of your being.
Happiness comes from fully recognizing what is already there and breaking through the fog of misconceptions that cloud our minds so that we see the greater picture.
(The scope of this topic goes well beyond this article, so I’m holding off from going further for now. The main point at the moment is to understand that it’s possible to be content and happy even in imperfect situations, so there’s no use in waiting for perfection to start being happy.)
Getting help with getting started
As mentioned above, getting started can be tough for numerous reasons; in fact, there are even physiological reasons getting started can be tough — a topic for some point in the future.
So how do you get started when it seems so hard to get going?
In much the same way a child gets a boost when they start learning how to use a swing, find someone or something that can help give you a boost to get going.
It’s okay — in fact, it’s good — to ask for help, to get assistance, in getting the motivation you need to start and keep going.
We are all on our journeys together, and we all need each others help at times.
By asking for help, you give someone else the opportunity to do something out of compassion, which is beneficial to both the receiver and the giver. Additionally, you may help spur them to start in on something they themselves are looking to do.
In a situation where the person can’t help for some reason, that is okay too. There are always other people and avenues to get help. Seek out assistance for others, and look to resources online, in libraries, in nature, and elsewhere.
(Part of the reason I started BigSkyRise, and why I write articles like this one are to help give you some motivation and assistance in getting started. In time, I’ll be adding some additional ways to get help from BigSkyRise, and meanwhile, if there’s anything you need, you’re always welcome to reach out.)
No matter what, if you feel stuck in a downward spiral you don’t feel you can or ever will get out of, get help.
No matter how hard and dark things are, no matter how numb you may feel, no matter the circumstance, if you seek out and accept help, you can change the direction of the spiral you are in. You can have a life of happiness, light, positive emotions, and enjoyment. Regardless of how it seems sometimes, there is hope, and you are not alone.
(Even in times where it feels like you are alone or can’t find outside help, realize there is an unlimited and untapped power inside of you. While it may take some time, you will be able to get out of the spiral of darkness. Keep your hope alive. Plus, like I said, you truly are not alone, even if it may feel like it.)
There is no perfect moment and every moment is perfect. That may sound contradictory, yet it is reality.
When we wait for the perfect moment we miss out on all the moments in life that are already perfect in their own way, and we miss out on taking steps along our path.
Whether you are looking to make changes in your life, or cultivate a greater level of mindful contentment with life as it is, or both, now is the time to start.
Fellow Journeyer @ BigSkyRise
Overarching note: As is usually the case, there are no hard-and-fast rules here. There are times when waiting is necessary and wise; such as waiting for it to be safe to cross the street, or waiting to take that double black diamond ski trail until after your broken leg fully heals. You are intelligent, so use your awareness, and own honest assessment to determine when waiting is or isn’t actually appropriate.
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