We see the fresh new opportunities awaiting us, and the impact we have on how the course of our day goes.
Sometimes though, things don’t seem to go quite like that.
What if, in fact, they go much the other direction?
…and your day starts like this
You groggily wake up to the blaring of an obnoxious alarm.
Wearily, you climb out of bed only to stub your toe on the foot of the dresser, spilling water all over yourself and everything around your bed.
After cleaning up the mess, you realize that now you’re running late; somehow in the process 20 minutes simply vanished.
Things are not starting off well, and you’re frustrated.
Once you get out the door, you quickly find yourself stuck in a nasty traffic jam.
On top of that, when you glance down at your dash you realize you forgot to fill up the gas tank this weekend.
So, now it’s either pull off and fill up, or run out of fuel.
You decide to pull off, only to discover there’s just one iffy-looking gas station around, and it happens to cost 30¢ more than everywhere you’ve seen recently.
Of course, with that expensive side trip, now you’re really going to be late, especially since the traffic now seems to be at a complete standstill …and that’s when it happens.
Your frustration boils over, and that awful feeling creeps over you.
All the signs point to “bad day”.
Frustration mounts, stress builds, and your mindset tanks.
You just know your day is going to be bad, or worse, from here on out.
“Today is going to suck.”
When things go like this…
How can we not feel this way, how can we not see that everything seems stacked against us, and how can we not feel that this is a sign that the day will be bad.
In truth, it’s okay to feel this.
Those frustrations and thought patterns are deeply engrained in most of us.
Trying to deny, bottle up, or fight those emotions only leads to them getting stronger and to doing ourselves harm.
At the same time, getting wrapped up in them and getting carried away by them harms us much the same.
There’s an alternative though.
Simply, acknowledge that those thoughts and emotions are there, and know that they’re normal and common. (At the exact same moment you are feeling them, countless others are feeling the same; you are not alone in your predicament.)
Then, let them go.
Those events, emotions, and thoughts aren’t really signs the day will be bad, or that we’re destined to be miserable; unless we actively make them such.
So often, they act like signs because we begin to believe the day will be bad no matter what.
Due to our belief, we carry a bad attitude, we unconsciously seek out things going wrong, and we look for every sign that the day is indeed worse than we want it.
Additionally, we interact poorly with people and situations. We get caught up in thoughts and fail to notice most of what’s around us, leading to more incidents.
However, when we realize all the things that have happened — and all the feelings and thoughts we’re having because of them — are just events and thoughts, it means we can let go of them.
When we let go of them, we can regain our perspective and a positive approach, and we can change our day for the better.
When we remind ourselves that these aren’t truly signs that a bad day is inevitable, we can open ourselves to the better possibilities.
Of course, for most of us, every time a snag comes up, or when the day’s earlier events pop into our heads, those emotions and thoughts are likely to keep sneaking back into our head… and that is alright too.
We just need to remember to treat them the same way each time they appear; realize they are what they are, let go, and remind ourselves the can still be good if we let it.
With time and practice, you’ll train yourself to no longer be carried away by these emotions and thoughts.
Then, you’ll find they slowly stop popping up altogether.
As a result, you’ll be much more empowered to overcome the obstacles the day may send your way.
Sometimes our day starts off very poorly. Things can be rough, and it can be easy to feel that the whole day will be a mess.
That doesn’t have to be true. Our perspective is more powerful than those events, and we can train ourselves towards a better day.
When we have those negative reactions, we can understand them for what they are and understand they are okay to have. Then we can let go of them, change our outlook, and change our day.
Actions to take:
- Realize it’s not a sign you see; you still have power over your relationship with how the day will go.
- Understand that your emotions and thoughts are simply that. Know it’s okay to have them. Then let them go.
- Remember your day can still be good when your attitude let’s it.
Fellow Journeyer @ BigSkyRise
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